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Sure, the world that we live in is constantly changing and that change just seems to be coming faster and faster as we move forward but there is no denying that the core of who we are as men and women is largely unchanged. Yes, it can be said that many attitudes are changing among both sexes women gain more prominence in the more advanced societies and beyond but when it comes right down to the nitty gritty we, as a species, have not really changed much over the centuries. This means that much of the modern face that we put on is just a new set of rules that most of us are just attempting to follow in order to get along in our ever changing environment. And, for women, that can mean a lot of inner struggles as they try to strike a balance between their new and ever advancing place in the modern world and their base desires which have been inbred into them for millenia.

A Look Into The Origins

Even the most ardent feminists will acknowledge that there a basic instincts that rule us all even if they may believe that these instincts can be overcome with enough effort. Still, there is no real denying the fact that women have a primal desire to bear children and be part of a family unit. This leads to the main desire to have a man - and not just any man. What the vast majority of women want is a man who fits a certain set of criteria. This means that the men that these women are looking for will have a number of distinct qualities which women find essential in a highly prized mate. Some have come to think of these qualities as being those that one might find in a variety of domesticated animals.

For instance, there is no denying that most women desire a man who makes them feel safe and who can be seen as a protector. In the animal analogy this would make the desired man a guard dog. Another trait, which would be imperative to having children, would be the desire for a man who shows outward signs of being virile. The analogy there would make him a stud. And, then there are the more mundane yet truly important qualities involving general strength as a woman learns early in life that a man with a great degree of physical strength can be a great asset. This trait is generally associated with the pack mule. And, finally the analogy extends to the trait of industriousness which means that most women really want a man who will work hard to advance their shared goals and that means that she is also looking for what one might call a plow horse.

Team Players

Now, even though the earlier analysis might make it seem like many believe that women are inherently selfish and are only seeking men to be tools that they can use to get what they want in life, history shows that there is much more beyond that. In fact, the vast majority of the science and the evidence throughout history shows that women want to be in a loving relationship in which both the man and the woman share in the responsibilities of being partners. This can be seen in the great writings and paintings and songs that have endured in every society. And, despite the turmoil in today's world surrounding the roles that each sex expects from the other, there is little doubt that women want to be loved and they want to be in love with someone. And that someone is a man who meets her needs and loves her for who she is and what she brings to the table.

Power Dynamics

Clearly, if we as a species have learned anything, it's that there is no one way for people to live or for people to think. This is one of the many reasons that it can be so hard to find the person that is right for you. And, among the many dynamics involved is the question of which person in a relationship has what most would call the upper hand. This doesn't necessarily mean that the man or woman would have total control in a relationship but it does mean that in almost any situation there is one person who, whether acknowledged or not, could be said to have the upper hand and is largely responsible for guiding the pair on the course that they will take in life.

This fact can have some profound implications as the dominant individual would likely determine what, if any, religion they might follow and, of course, how any children would be raised in relationship to these spiritual matters. The list of issues could go on forever but the bottom line here is that there is always a power dynamics which often lasts a lifetime but which can also shift to a large or small degree and at any time in the relationship.

Today's Women

As we talked about earlier, there is no doubt that the basic instincts that women have are deeply embedded in who they are but that doesn't mean that they  can't overcome some of these natural tendencies. For example, if the basic drive to have children could not be overridden then we would not likely see the dramatic decrease in the number of children being born, especially in the more developed parts of the world.

Another key dynamic is the fact that women are playing a larger and larger role in decision making when it comes to our societies as a whole. In past centuries or even just decades it would be highly unlikely that a women could rise to prominence or a position of power without the backing of some very powerful men but that has changed as women all around the world are being promoted to positions of power in just about all sectors of society. This means that they can be found anywhere from boardrooms to governor's mansions and beyond.

The Struggle For Power

Going back to the basic instincts that tend to drive both men and women there is something that cannot be easily overlooked and that is the natural tendency for men to want to dominate everything in their worlds. Now, clearly this is not completely true in all situations but, as a rule, it is very much true. And, this can lead to a lot of issues when it comes to women getting what they want. But, as it has been widely seen time and time again throughout history and in every culture all around the world, women often have ways of getting what they desire by using tactics and strategies which simply would not work for most men who are, one could say, programmed to use strength and intimidation as their primary forces.

Combating those formidable strengths of men has always been a challenge for women seeking to advance their causes but they have largely made the gradual change necessary but, in some cases, banding together to achieve their goals or by using a more subtle and, some might argue, manipulative approach to dealing with the roadblocks that they face in life.

Isn't Love The Real Answer?

There can be no denying that men and women are locked in a constant struggle to get the upper hand in life and history has shown that men win many of these battles through sheer force and their innate desire to dominate. However, more enlightened views which keep advancing all around the globe are making it harder and harder for men to use these ancient and sometimes disastrous techniques.

In this brave new world that we all find ourselves thrust into the question more and more people keep finding themselves asking is - isn't love the real answer? And, the more and more that this question gets asked, the more and more people are finding that it truly can be. This seems to be true because both men and women are coming to find that when they simply treat each other with respect and love they will find that most of the problems that cause so much pain and anguish in the world can be overcome.

What it all seems to come down to is the basic fact that there are many differences between the way men and women think and what they desire. But having a sense of shared interest and a desire to live life together in love and harmony has been and continues to show that all of our lives can be that much better and give us all what we truly want.