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Let's all be adults here: sex is great. That's just a given. And it's even better when you can take your regular 'ol intimate routine outside of the bedroom. Sadly, however, most people aren't bold or adventurous enough to take things beyond their bedroom door. We think this is very unfortunate. It can be really rewarding to step outside the boudoir and try to spice things up somewhere new. If you've never done anything naughty anywhere other than the top of a mattress, then we have a suggestion for you: the shower!

Getting busy in the shower is an adventure full of sexy, steamy fun just waiting to happen. But shower sex isn't to be stumbled into blindly. Once you two are ready to explore some showering sensations, use our shower sex 101 guide to turn up the heat on your hygiene routine.

First, Try: Up Against the Wall

There are two different ways you can get steamy all over your shower walls: the first one is, for all intents and purposes, a vertical version of the missionary position. This works very well if your partner has a decent amount of upper body strength. Use the wall to your advantage so that your partner isn't straining against your full body weight. The higher they can put you up on that wall, the less force they will need to lift you - and the easier it will be to put yourself in a coital alignment technique (CAT) position. This position is especially useful for penetrative sex because it also stimulates a woman's clitoris and other sensitive areas outside of the vagina.

We understand the fact that gravity and wet surfaces don't always mix very well. But there are precautions you can take in order to get frisky up against the wall a little more safely. You can always keep one foot on the ground while facing your partner with your back against the wall. If you're flexible enough, lifting the other leg and wrapping it around your partner in just the right way can provide enough space for them to get in there and go to town. Then again, you could turn around and try having fun with another, relatively safer up-against-the-wall position: doggy style.

Next, Try It...From Behind

Sex from behind is another popular position which works just as well in the bedroom as it does in the shower. To start, you need to bend over far enough so that your partner has no problem touching, playing with, or gaining entry to all of your fun parts below the waist. If you have a thick memory foam bath mat, then you can try this position on your knees for a little more stability - otherwise, we strongly suggest you stay on your feet for the sake of your joints. Brace yourself against the wall and let your partner work their magic while you relax and enjoy. Keep in mind, ladies, that you don't have to limit this position to just the front door. If you really want to get naughty, you can experiment with other ports of entry.

There are two advantages that this position has over up-against-the-wall sex: for starters, your partner gets an amazing and tantalizing view of your body. Second, this is a much more efficient and effective position for women who enjoy vaginal/cervical orgasms. For a little extra safety, make sure there's something sturdy - very sturdy - for you to hold on to so that you don't slip or fall.

Make Like Ginuwine and Ride That Pony

If you don't have the type of tub or shower setting that gives your partner place to sit, you may have to do a little shopping to pull this one off. Regardless, once your partner is seated comfortably, get ready to climb on top and gallop them into oblivion. Face to face contact can provide an intimate experience and give you a better angle for clitoral/mons stimulation. Best of all, when a man is having sex in a relaxed, seated position, it's easier for him to go longer and control his climax. This gives you two more time to really draw out the experience and set off some seriously steamy fireworks.

Do Not - We Repeat, DO NOT - Forget the Foreplay!

Good sex - and we mean really, really, really good sex - is more about the journey than the destination. Beware of anyone who believes that "sex is like pizza - even when it's bad, it's still good", because they probably suck in bed. And if they don't know what they're doing in the bedroom, they're going to be completely inept when it comes to shower sex.

Foreplay in the shower has certain advantages which other locations simply cannot compete with. And don't forget that just because you're touching, caressing, kissing, nibbling, and sucking on each other in the shower doesn't mean you have to finish in there (although it sure does make clean-up a breeze!). The shower is a great place to start a marathon, all-night-long love making session. Once you two are so turned on that you can't do much else without risking a concussion, simply exit the bathroom and start rolling around in the sheets - or wherever else your shower sexventure takes you.

Shower Sex Accessories You Can't Get Busy Without

If you really want to take your shower sex game to the next level, you're going to need more than a soft loofah and some very sudsy body wash. There are certain accessories which not only help improve the safety factor, but also give you more position variety. Some of them help give you extra foreplay options, too.

Bath Mats

Anything that's sticky on the bottom and textured on the top works rather well. Place the mat on the floor of your shower where you and your partner's feet will be. It'll help you stay steady and avoid falling injuries in the face of slippery suds, wet tile, and athletic, enthusiastic thrusting.

Water-Friendly Lube

You can't rely on regular water as a lubricant because it can be extremely drying. Water-based lubricants, on the other hand, are specifically designed to do the exact opposite. You could also used a silicone-based lube to counteract the potentially drying effects of the water. Just remember that silicone isn't exactly sex toy friendly, even for waterproof toys. We strongly suggest against oil based lubes because bacteria love them (and bacteria also like to hang out in showers, too).

Lastly - and we can't stress this enough - don't use any of your regular shower products as an improvised lubricant. They may help keep things slippery and fun while you're stimulating each other on the outside, but you do not want harsh chemicals getting thrust into your most intimate areas. If you add friction, harsh chemicals from soaps and shampoos, and the most delicate tissues of your body all together, you're going to have a bedtime.

A Handheld, Multi-Setting Shower Head

We're sure all the ladies here know where we're going with this; a handheld shower head is your best friend when it comes to getting intimate in the shower. Obviously, you're going to want one with multiple settings like "pulse" or "massage" (just to name a few). The warm water and light pressure are great for stimulating both you and your partner's erogenous zones. You can either please yourself and enjoy the entranced look on your partner's face, or you could use the shower head to stimulate your lover. You can take turns, too! Using a handheld shower head can easily bring you, your partner, or the both of you to climax.

Shower Furniture (for Sex!)

Shower benches and/or stools aren't just for people who can't physically stand in the shower - they're also great for people who choose to sit. We talked about the girl-on-top position earlier. While we were talking about it, we had this exact piece of furniture in mind. Of course, you can't just take any old piece of furniture with a flat surface and bring it into the shower. It should be sturdy, level, well-balanced, and have rubber-grip feet on the bottom. Otherwise, all that thrusting and gyrating could leave you vulnerable to slips and falls.

You could also try installing a shower bar - assuming you don't already have one, or that the one you have isn't sturdy enough to hold your weight. You should make sure that the unit is mounted (heh) into the wall with hard, sturdy screws (ya see what we did there?) And that the bar itself is constructed of thick, solid (ok, we'll stop now) materials which won't bend or break. That bar, plus a sturdy grip, can equal a very fun time.

Well there you have it - from accessories to positions and everything else in between, you now know everything you need to know about having sex in the shower! Have fun, stay safe, and enjoy yourselves. Really, really enjoy yourself.